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Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Shattered Opinion


 I don't hate Kristen Stewart.
Yes.
I'm disappointed.
I'm confused.
I'm trying to wrap my head around all of it.
It's not working.
I feel sorrow.
Sorry for the innocent people this has hurt.
Sorry for the hatred that this fandom is seething with.
Sorry that sometimes sorry
isn't enough.

Kristen didn't betray me.
Everything I did for and about her...
I did for me.
No one forced me to go to her movies
or buy her magazine covers...
Or rush to her defense.
And contrary to popular opinion
No one made me love her.
And him.
Together.
I did that on my own.
And I have no regrets over the last 4 years.
I would do it all again.

And guess what?
I still feel protective over her.
Can't help it.
I get if you feel betrayed.
I get that you are mad.
I even get if you don't like her anymore.
But the violent hatred I have seen online
makes me nauseous.

I don't condone having affairs with married men.
It's wrong.
It's destructive.
It's completely selfish.
And it makes no fucking sense.

I admit that I'm overly invested in this.
I loved both Rob and Kristen.
But my biggest clue was that I was physically ill this morning.
As in throwing up.
Sick.
Over this.
Over two people's relationship.
And I'm not one of the people.
It shouldn't affect me this strongly.
But it does.

Look...
I will always be a fan of Robert Pattinson.
I fucking adore him.
Forever.
As for Kristen...
I can't turn my back on her.
Even now.
I need to see how this all plays out.
I need to know ...
That they are BOTH OK.
I will still care about Robert and Kristen
Together. Or apart.

Kristen released a statement today regarding this whole thing...

I'm deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment 
I've caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected.
 This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important thing in my life,
 the person I love and respect the most, Rob.
 I love him, I love him, I'm so sorry.

I love him.
I love him.
I'm so sorry.

What was left of my heart... shattered.

What remains to be seen...
Is how Robert handles all this.



I wish that they could just figure it out on their own.
Without the whole fucking world watching them.
Judging them.

I feel protective over Rob... too.
He loved her so.
She made him so happy.
And that made me happy.
I can't imagine anyone doing this to him.
Especially Kristen.

Kristen is flawed.
So is Robert.
Human. Imperfect.
We have no idea what is happening with them...
or why.
We see tiny glimpses into their lives
Glimpses that we probably don't deserve.
Are you without flaws?
Have you never hurt someone you love?
Whether Kristen is forgiven or not
isn't up to you.
Or me.
Just Rob.
This is their relationship.
It's between them.
Only them.
We are outside... looking in.
We don't belong inside.


This post is brought to you by my heart.
It aches for Robert.
It's sad for Kristen.
It's hurting for this fandom...
who have loved Rob and Kristen
so well for so long.

Where do we go from here?

Will they find happy again?
Will we?



One last thing.

Don't make me choose.
It will be him.
It's always been him.

Bye for now

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carol benatti said...

Loved the post Rose! It says everything I am feeling right now!

Kay said...

Very well said, Rose....I just want them both to be okay, too.

There really isn't anything else for me to say than what I already have. Wishing them peace and strength.

Lanette said...

I couldn't agree more with that statement.

Lady Krishna Asi said...

You completely said everything I am feeling right now. I can never turn my back on both of them. I can't do that. no matter what. Whatever the outcome I'll support them both. Together or Separately. I will always love them..

crazy4qaf said...

Thank you,Rose.Just...thank you. Always a voice of reason. ♥

Thesabstar1 said...

perfect.

Anna said...

Thanks Rose! That's exactly how I feel, just couldn't put it into words!! I refused to believe it until Shauna...well you know!

msmixalot said...

Great post rose....my tears are falling.. feel like you do too..

Anna said...

Thanks Rose! That's exactly how I feel, just couldn't put it into words!! I refused to believe it until Shauna...well you know!

ahymhee cullen said...

I totally agree with your post, I cannot really understand why this thing need to happen... we love them together we're happy when they are happy, but today we are all saddened and hurt coz they are too. Nobody is perfect, but still hoping that they will fix whatever they left right now. aside from being lovers they are besties too... so... (sigh...) :'''(((

30 said...

Hi Rose it's nice to hear from you tonight. I think a lot of us were waiting to hear from you to be honest.

"hugs"

msmixalot said...

Great post rose....my tears are falling.. feel like you do too..

yuri said...

I wish the man up there will have mercy on us and both Rob and Kristen. I am still in shock but like you I can't turn my back on here she deserve a second chance. Our fandom is/was so awesome! I look forward it everyday..now I wish some how we can get back to that!

Creampuff said...

I cannot explain how much this whole mess is so confusing to me. I really want them to work it out, I just feel so much for Rob in this. He didn't deserve it.

MLH414 said...

Beautifully stated Rose...wishing them peace, strength, and love. I will always adore them both, together or apart. I hope they can work on things with privacy and respect from all.

~Lynn

Freddie said...

Copied over from the end of the last post, as I was late in commenting:

I feel very conflicted about this whole mess. I’m trying really hard to reconcile my emotional response to the news with a more considered take on things – as many of you wise ladies have in your earlier comments.

I’ve always liked and respected Kristen as an actor and person, and have certainly felt protective of her when people attacked her unjustly. So, it’s sad for me to admit that the emotional side of me is thoroughly disappointed in her for this most public of indiscretions. It doesn’t make sense to me. This isn’t the Kristen that I thought I knew. I feel sadness and concern for her – yes, but more than anything, my heart goes out to Rob, as I’m sure he’s devastated by this unexpected betrayal. I wish I could say otherwise ladies, but that’s how I feel. I would feel the same if the roles were reversed.

What makes this worse is that this is playing out in “Hollywood” – land of spin, damage control, media relations and pursuit of the almighty buck. I’m troubled, because at this point, I really don’t know what to believe. Kristen issues a public apology. Is this sincere or is she being required to do damage control to salvage Breaking Dawn? I would like to believe the former but she has given us reason to doubt.

That’s what the emotional/skeptical side of me is saying. At the same time, I’ve read and re-read many of your comments and you are correct in pointing out that we are all human. I too, have made my share of mistakes. If this truly is a “momentary indiscretion” then she absolutely deserves our understanding and compassion. Am I disappointed in her? Yes. Do I wish her ill? – Absolutely not.

I hope that with time that they both find a measure of peace again – whether together or apart.

Dottie said...

My mind is full of things I want to say but I don't know how to express. Mostly I'm just sad.

Wishing them peace, comfort, and healing as they go through this terrible time. Maybe I'm just deluded but I will continue to hope that they come out on the other side of this stronger and together. If not, I still wish them well.

Eaglerise said...

Beautiful words. And I agree, it will ALWAYS be him!!

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ruskin times said...

its definitely mind boggling, to me its very confusing..bc she is so private and to publicly to this, something is amiss for me, I think there is more to it than we know and I hope and pray that together they can work it out, I've faithfully follwed you, and robstenation for yrs now and have always been a fan and will continue to be. such a sad day.

Groovie said...

It's like u picked the feelings out of my heart and the words out of my brain.
I imagine this was a challenging post to write, but you said it perfectly.

Kristen's statement is heartbreaking, they are both heartbroken, and where they go from here is their decision. I hope they are given space and privacy to work these decisions out in this very difficult time for them.

Regardless, I still love and support them both and wish them both nothing but the best. My heart goes out to them.

Cyber hugs and Captain & Cokes to Rose and all of you.

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Keltikrain76 said...

I did this...when I was her age...with the man I know was the one.....why? We were too young for the intensity of our relationship.....we couldn't handle it. we worked it out that time....until but then lost it again along the way. I miss him everyday. In saying all this I feel they have..that connection....I only hope they can save theirs....

Shay said...

Well done Rose. I feel just like you, and agree with everything you said. *hugd*

Pampy said...

Excellent post! I was devastated as I, like all the other fans, became heavily invested to this couple's relationship. My heart aches for them both. However, I felt I can't view anymore Robsten YouTube videos so I deleted them all. I truly believed that they were different from other Hollywood couples and that they would last. Life goes on and so do we and Rob.

tagaconde said...

Rose, thanks for caring and being non-judgmental. that's how i feel for Kristen; I am sad for Rob. Hopefully they find grieving and healing away from the public eyes; together or separate; they will both survive graciously. Experience and lesson learned for Kristen. May they be strong together and individually; and carry on with their projects, and this time, with more discretion. Oh, how I feel for all of them, Rob and Kristen the most, equally.

LIZ said...

THANK YOU, ROSE, for posting tonight. We needed someone to SAY what we are all feeling AND we needed somewhere to talk to each other, besides Twitter.

Like you, I'm almost physically sick over this, didn't want to believe it last night, didn't believe it. Lust makes humans do crazy things AND stupid things and usually has no parallel to love.

Unfortunately, everyone gets hurt by this. My "gut" feeling is that Rob & Kris will overcome this though it'll be a long, hard road. I'm hoping that both of their families will help them through this, IF they want help and IF they love each other enough.

I'm a bit concerned that her next movie role is a porn star, not going to help anything.

PLEASE, let's stick together, don't you go away like some other sites are. I still love here no matter what she's done and him, also. It's OUR problem for loving them together so much.

Jarin Watson said...

*hugs*
....thank you .. *sigh*

Lynne Knowles said...

Oh yes Rose..oh yes...your dignity of expression is so welcome. Today I tried to post a comment to the last blog and it erased some how. I so want to tell you why I have followed your blog for 3 years, and I will at some point share that. But today is about hope...my hope for their happiness together or apart. Kristen has done something that some of us honest ladies may have done at some point in our life...not proud...just a life lesson. I understand...love will prevail. If the love is as deep and as true as I suspect, it WILL prevail. If not, then it would have never survived. I can only hope and have faith that Rob will handle this like the fine young man he is.
Keep on keepin on Rose..love and peace.

faa said...

Thank you for the words.
I was desperately waiting for your words to calm me down.
I cried like someone dead last night and this morning.
Nobody understand, except here- in your place, in our happy place.
So, reading your words has indeed calm me down.
You said everything that I felt right now.
I do hope, in the love will conquer all.
And I always hold on tight to your tagline: In the end, Rob and Kristen will always end up together.
May the force be with them..

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FFpassion said...

Well said Rose xx

bellabells7279 said...

Love your post Rose. I feel devastated right now. I love them both. I don't hate Kristen. I never could. I just hope they will get through this together.

PipDancer said...

The one that I don't like in this is Rupert. Kristen is young, infatuated, apparently nurturing a crush. He's 19 years older, wife of one, mother of two. He took advantage of a kid. Asshole! My thoughts and prayers go out to Rob and Kristen and hope they can get through this. I'm afraid though that it will be breakup time. I don't see accepting cheating. Probably most anything else. But not cheating. And I can't say I blame him. His poor broken heart, it will take a long time to mend.

ADD said...

Kristen is human and has made a huge mistake. Right now she's paying the price. Her statement broke my heart. I can't hate her but I wish I could understand why she did this. TBH I can't think about Rob without crying, his world turned upside down in less than 24 hours. This made me sick about the whole thing. I hope he's alright.

luckystrike87 said...

Rose I think you were very fair in what you said and I applaud you for that.

I think most of us hate that this is being played out in the public eye, unfortunately when you're constantly being followed by the rabid Paparazzi and for whatever reason, lapse of judgement, moment of weakness, whatever the case might be, have an encounter in broad daylight in a car with a married man, fair or not it becomes public. I do not fault Kristen for making the public apology she must feel desperately alone and scared right, filled with shame and revulsion by her own actions, but again, unfair or not this is all taking place in the public eye and it's human nature to look, no matter how hard we don't want to.

My disappointment over this, is not as much about Kristen hurting Rob, that's for them to hammer out, maybe they can overcome it, maybe they can't but I hope they do. My disappointment is over Kristen having this inappropriate encounter with a man married to a co-worker, and who happens to be a father.

No matter how big of a scumball he might be, that still doesn't mean that Kristen had to stoop to his level. She is better than that. or I thought she was.

Birdie said...

Rose,
Through all these years,you have been and remain a comfort. Thank you.

30 said...

Hi Freddie!

Since you did a re-post I am doing the same. Then, I am done with this conversation for a bit. I hope this fandom can heal that is all.

I just read Kristen's apology I really think I am to disappointed in her right now to say anything further. I refuse too bash her, I will not become "one of them" No, we are not perfect, but we do need to as women own up when we fuck up. That is how we learn, that is how we grow.

If I could give her some advice though thinking she might actually see it. I would tell her to be HONEST with Robert about it ALL even if it is going to hurt he deserves the full truth and once there are no more lies, the healing can begin and he can decide what he wants in truth not lies.

I just want to add this director guy is a fucking piece of shit. Kristen is 22 he is 42 and married he KNOWS better. Period.

Oneheart said...

Rose you touched my heart with your words, and we needed you to post today. For no other reason than to show us that life goes on.

I'm praying for Rob and Kristen that they find what they need to move on whether it is together or seperate. I pray they can work through this.

Any love that two people share needs time to heal when the heart is bleeding. I pray the outside world gives them a place of peace, so their broken hearts can be made whole again.

Norma Rae said...

To me something is not right with all of this, I mean, Why did she make a public apology for a relationship she has never publically admitted to being in? She could have just made an apology to her family and his family??

Another thing is, it was said (if I remember correctly)they met behind some old buildings or something. Kristen is a smart girl, she knows the paps are watching her at ALL TIMES, so why would she do this in broad daylight.

I am a fan of both Rob & Kristen, none of this craziness will ever change that!

I just had to get this off my chest because it makes absolutely no sense. Maybe we will find out more later.

With all that said, I wish Rob & Kristen nothing but the best and pray that this will all blow over soon and they can get on with their lives. (hopefully together)

bcaceres30 said...

I feel very sad for Rob and I hope that he can move on from this. I am still in shock. Tbh I dont think i will be able to see BD 2 which saddens me since i have been a Twilight fan since 2005.

Kathy said...

Thanks for the post Rose. It's what I needed to read. My emotions are SO mixed up right now in regards to Kristen, and my heart is SO broken for Rob. I hate how my heart is feeling right now and I want it to go away. I love Kristen and Rob TOGETHER. I HOPE and PRAY that they can work it out and if they can't I HOPE and PRAY for acceptance (for ROB and for the fandom)to move on from this and be ok. But right now, I am just NOT feeling ok and it really, really sucks. xo

time4rme said...

you as always, put my feelings into words , perfectly, sad sad, you're not th eonly one physically il, I am seriously reviewing my own behavior plan right now...

nycalways82 said...

My support to Rob in whatever he decides to do. My hope is that he's surrounded by his family and friends. Also may he be kept away from the media as this most personal situation continues to unfold in the public eye.

conflictedme said...

Loved what you wrote, somehow I feel like this affects me in a direct way even if it doesn't. I hear you when you say you can't hate her, but is hard to understand why this happened. I'm sorry for Rob, because he's hurting, and I really love him and I think he didn't deserve this, specially not with all of us judging and having opinions about it. With Kristen I'm conflicted, do I still love her?, sure, do I condone what she did? never, specially when there are kids involved. Is it my place to judge??? I don't think so, I just hope that they find a way to figure this whole thing out, and conclude in whats best for both, I really hope they can find a way to happiness, even if is not together. We'll have to wait and see.... but this is a sad sad day!

Elizabeth Clason said...

Exactly. Just exactly.

Litmom said...

Rose,
Thank you so much. I think you crawled into my heart and wrote down the words that were written there.

I'm very sad. So sad, and I don't even know them. I feel like I do, though. I feel like they're my own kids - and I want to shield and protect them from the s***storm that comes from living in the public eye.

Hugs to everyone in Roseland. And so thankful for loving, level headed Rose.

Freddie said...

Hi 30 - nice to see you pop in. I hope things are well with you.

musiclovepeace said...

Thank you.
I've been feeling sick all day, with knots in my stomach, over all that has happened.
I'm so confused.
I'm so disappointed.
Not just with Kristen, though I still support her, but with so many people in this fandom.
I hate to see all of this fall apart.
I hope there will be something left when this is all over.

30 said...

Freddie I was in shock last night when this came upon my Facebook from gossip cop of course I came home to Roseland. :)

AllOrNothingKR said...

You said it perfectly, and exactly how I feel.

Cote de Texas said...

perfect
you said it perfectly - this is all that needs to be said.

nothing else!

you are the best!!! now, go eat something.

Joni

Mirah121178 said...

Rose,

I don't know if i can reach you.
I feel the same with you. I knew it yesterday even before kristen made statements that it's true. I had a nightmare about this. I love them so much. I hope Rob will find strength to face it. Hope Kristen will end this relationship. I know it's her action, but i feel sorry for her future in Hollywood.

Hope said...

Dear Rose,
Thank you for this post.
I needed to hear your thoughts today, but I am still heartbroken for each of them...especially Rob and Bear.

Boogie with Stew said...

Reposting as well & then some

Howdy my Rosie friends... haven't popped in quite sometime..

I have read till my eyeballs are ready to fall out.. I haven't seen the pics but heard the apology..

Somehow I just feel in my spirit, there's more to this...honestly with the paps on your coat tails all the time.. and to " get caught" maybe I'm in denial... I think it's a diversion... something just doesn't add up.. and I will always remain a fan..regardless we are "all human"

Thanks Rose for your wisdom...as always you nail it.. hugs to all peace love and many wonderful Twilight memories
Boogie with Stew aka Mary Jane

color me purple ....I am a hopeful romantic

Rhonda said...

Beautifully stated, Rose <3

My heart hurts for both Rob and Kristen. I wish them peace, privacy, and much needed healing...

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Mirah121178 said...

Rose,

I can't even sleep, eat or work. I'm a mother with 2 sons (10 and 6 yrs). I feel like I was betrayed. I saw the pictures. I'm truly disappointed for her action but I still want to stand by her side. Kristen must takes this step:
1. Apologize also to Rupert's family.
2. Apologize to the studio, fans.
3. Get out from Hollywood, grab a new life.
I still hope Rob will prove that he's the best man I know.

serenajean08 said...

My heart tells me this is not true. I have watched Kristen over the years and she is brutally honest and so earnest. My heart says she is not the type of girl who would do this! She has said she can't do a scene if it doesn't feel honest to her. I can't believe she would cheat on July 17 and then hold hands and look lovingly at Rob at TCA on July 22. Anyone with eyes can tell she adores Rob. I will be disappointed in her if this is true but I still love her and support her.

fivehaskells said...

Well said. Part of me feels that people expect them to be Edward and Bella...it is an impossible fantasy for them to live up to. Maybe this is her unconscious way of taking herself off the pedestal people have put her on. I am also a Rob fan forever and have no doubt that he will take this experience and apply it to his art. I look forward to supporting him in the audience in everything he chooses to share.

joy418 said...

Hi Rose long time follower and first time to post. It's unfortunate that I'm posting at this time of difficulty. Like everyone said you always write what we think and feel and so I feel that I don't shave to write anything anymore. I just wanted to sort of talk to someone about this. I've been following R/K for almost 4 years and yes I feel like that was a long time invested. When I went to twitter last night i felt heart broken and went to bed hoping this was not true. I stayed away from twitter all day and felt sick all day long. I didn't want to go back online but I need to let out this thing that I'm feeling. Like the others I'm confused and hoping that rK will work this out. I don't hate Kristen but I'm disappointed. In what I don't know. Thank you so much and I can always come to your blog and feel a little bit better.

laurieo76 said...

My heart just breaks for Rob today. I will support him whatever his choice may be - whether to forgive and try to rebuild or just move on. I know he loved her as much as he was capable of and it breaks my heart that she was capable of this level of betrayal. She is not the Kristen I believed she was.

My Dream Couple said...

Dear Rose
I have always followed your post and have loved this couple from the bottom of my heart. I've never commented on your blog, because there is always someone else who has commented exactly my thoughts.

It was my birthday yesterday, but with this shattering news, I really wasn't in the mood to celebrate. I did not realise how much this would affect me. I'm a happily married woman with two great grown up kids. My family knows how strongly (though they find it strange)I feel for this couple. They were my dream couple and will continue to be so.

I am totally disappointed in Kristen, because she has hurt someone like Robert who I believe loves her so much. He is someone who brings out the best in people, some of us just can't help but to adore to him. Hopefully, he finds in him to forgive her and they work things out. It is a real test of love both of them. Only time can heal the pain and hurt this has caused Rob.

I will definitely have Rob and Kristen in my prayers.

Aeden27 said...

lovely Rose,

It's been a while since i've been here. Things have bee really well back then.

Rose, I'm broken hearted. A part of me dsnt want to believe but logic tells me i have to be realistic. I have seen the hatred this fandom is capable of and nobody wises that for Kristen or for anyone else.

I dont even know if the statement really came fom her knowing the source is not reliable. All i know is if these were true, a lot of people wil get hurt. In time, this will be forgotten but the scars of what was said will remain.

"Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself; a final form of love"

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear (From Martin Luther King Jr.)

Lots of love to all in Roseland

lilsis974 said...

You don't have any idea about how much I needed your words. I don't come here too much, but I love your blog. At the beginning I thougth it was a fucking lie, photoshop, but then I saw de car pictures and it was like... a punch on my stomach. I felt so much pain. I feel hate about Kristen, right now. I adore her, but... how many news said about Robert cheating on her and all were a fucking lie, just with pictures with Rob walking with a girl, and then Kristen just... throw away everything. Maybe one day I get over it, but exactly how you said it, it's a thing between them, not us. We are only fans that we love them and want all the good things for them, but it's hard. It's hard when you live true love through them. But well. Thank you so so much for your post. I appreciate it. It make me be strong, really :)

lilsis974 said...

You don't have any idea about how much I needed your words. I don't come here too much, but I love your blog. At the beginning I thougth it was a fucking lie, photoshop, but then I saw de car pictures and it was like... a punch on my stomach. I felt so much pain. I feel hate about Kristen, right now. I adore her, but... how many news said about Robert cheating on her and all were a fucking lie, just with pictures with Rob walking with a girl, and then Kristen just... throw away everything. Maybe one day I get over it, but exactly how you said it, it's a thing between them, not us. We are only fans that we love them and want all the good things for them, but it's hard. It's hard when you live true love through them. But well. Thank you so so much for your post. I appreciate it. It make me be strong, really :)

katy said...

So much in your post that is exactly how I am feeling!

God crying because I am so very disapointed at Kristen....but most of all my heart aches for Rob, it kill me to think how devasted it he must be.

TheRugbymom said...

Nicely done.

Even a Nonsten like me is saddened by this news. I just have to remind myself that it's really none of my business and I wish them well.

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Boogie with Stew said...

Howdy Dk ... many who have wandered have return to Roseland for comfort...

DreamerKind said...

@Rose
The mountains are moving now, and the rains will spread the seeds of hope, while all try to find their way.
You are the wind beneath our wings, as always, and difficult as that may be for you, we do fly higher along with you, in your aerie.

Fanfic said...

It's like you were in my head and my heart and you were speaking the words I couldn't say.

Thank you, Rose, for not hating on her. Thank you for being a place of (relative) peace right now.

I am so happy to have stumbled upon this blog...everything you write is so perfectly apt.

emc3015 said...

This was devastating news. My heart aches for Rob. If this has been a hoax and we've been played, I will gladly be the fool.

rolange said...

Ah, dear sweet Rose. Thank you for your words. I've always looked to them in times of great joy...and sorrow.

It amazes me how I, like others, are so affected by Robsten. How I, like others, are hurting for Robert, and yes, Kristen too. But along with the hurt, there's bound to be confusion and anger. Shattered dreams come of this.

But like you said, it's not our lives, it's theirs. I hope they are given the space and time to work through it, whatever the outcome is. But at the same time, I have to say...I'll take my cue from what Robert does. He's a class act, as far as I can tell. And he's hurting and devastated if the reports are true.

So much has changed in such a short while for such a dumb ass reason. Two people's actions have hurt at least four other people. And disillusioned many others.

I like your Twilight quote at the end though. Don't make me choose. It will be him. It has always been him.

DreamerKind said...

@Boogie!
Yes, it is that kind of place. Was so happy to see you here! You're so needed.

@30
I hear your heart's outpouring and filling up anew. Good you came.

@So many others, new and previous Roseland visitors gathered here for healing.

Kathy said...

I wish I could go to sleep right now and wake up tomorrow and have this all be a horrible nightmare. Wishful thinking. I can't sleep. I can't stop crying. For Rob, for us. I feel I have invested so much time into Rob and Kristen. I always thrived on knowing they were together and happy. That made me happy. I wish I could just understand her line of thinking, even just a little bit. But I can't. I want to ask her "why wasn't he enough for you?" I understand that people make mistakes. I really do. They looked SO in love, all the time. Especially on the balcony at Cannes. I thought for sure they'd be taking their relationship to the next level....soon. I hope tomorrow brings some kind of comfort and/or acceptance of this horrible situation. For all of us, but most of all for ROB. Keeping Rob, and everyone involved, as well as all of you who are hurting and sad as well, in my prayers tonight. xoxo

rolange said...

Ah, dear sweet Rose. Thank you for your words. I've always looked to them in times of great joy...and sorrow.

It amazes me how I, like others, are so affected by Robsten. How I, like others, are hurting for Robert, and yes, Kristen too. But along with the hurt, there's bound to be confusion and anger. Shattered dreams come of this.

But like you said, it's not our lives, it's theirs. I hope they are given the space and time to work through it, whatever the outcome is. But at the same time, I have to say...I'll take my cue from what Robert does. He's a class act, as far as I can tell. And he's hurting and devastated if the reports are true.

So much has changed in such a short while for such a dumb ass reason. Two people's actions have hurt at least four other people. And disillusioned many others.

I like your Twilight quote at the end though. Don't make me choose. It will be him. It has always been him.

saphire1231 said...

Rose... thank you!

I too spent the night uncomfortably... I scoured the internet looking for rebuttals and eventually went to bed @ 4am. I woke late this morning and turned on the computer to find the devastation confirmation via Kristen's apology.

I cried... I cried for them both as I would for my own children... because that is what they have become like for me... I share in the joys and their sorrows in the same way as I do my own children. I will never meet them I am sure... but I cannot abandom either of them.

Kristen made a monumental fo'paux, I do not condone it - nor do I excuse it... however in saying that I am mindful of the fact that at age 22 this lass has lots of experience in many things... relationships is not one of them and this is one huge learning curve for her.

I am mindful of the double standards I see all over the internett... i.e. blame Kristen whilst that Sleeze of a man seems to escape for now... He is old enough to be her father... he should have been leading in what is the right thing to do... He should have been exhibiting fidelity to his wife and children... instead he was chasing after the beautiful young star...

I cannot turn my back on Kristen... certainly not on ROb... I still hope they can work this out and remain together... Wow... if they can... what an amazing statement they will make to the world.... Love conquers all!

I hate the vitrol I am seeing on twitter and have decided not to go there at least until this debarcle dissapates.

I pray for Rob & Kristen and their families... I also pray for those fans I know (like everyone on this blog) who love and support both R&K
I will still follow them both.

Love Chrissie

DreamerKind said...

The Eagle And The Hawk

John Denver:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TC9FWwQ2ZrM

I am the eagle
I live in high country
In rocky cathedrals
That reach to the sky

I am the hawk
And there’s blood on my feathers
But time is still turning
They soon will be dry

And all of those who see me
All who believe in me
Share in the freedom
I feel when I fly

Come dance with the west wind
And touch on the mountain tops
Sail o’er the canyons
And up to the stars

And reach for the heavens
And hope for the future
And all that we can be
And not what we are

Thank you/CyanSkye1

kmah88 said...

meeeee toooo :(
exactly.

~kmuffin88

Boogie with Stew said...

@ Dk thanks my friend ...hugs, support & a place that understands...I am thankful for Roseland.. life is stranger than fiction...

healing and hope are my line of thinking.. I am not as whitty as you or Rose..

*I*Believe* said...

Sniff, sniff, sniff...I don't even know what to say....

Stop Code Enforcement Abuse said...

They renewed our confidence, in life, love and romance.
Now she let us down and she let Rob down.
Where they go from here, remains to be seen.
Is there redemption? A love like there's is like no other, and I hope they find a way to rebuild. But it all comes down to "trust" doesn't it?
It's all up to him now.
Love what you wrote Rose. You spoke as if you knew what we all were thinking.

Super RN Gas Passer said...

ROSE

You are the best......there is no doubt...and even though we posters have different ways of looking at this, there is one thing for certain Rose... people have come here to this forum because they know this is the place to be...where R and K are loved and cared for...especially by YOU...thank you for allowing all of us to post our feelings.

ROB

I hope that everything works out as you deem favorable. We love you so much...

KRISTEN

I hope that when all the dust is settled that you will realize with more clarity than you will ever have in your entire life that Rob was and is the total sum of all your hopes and dreams and that he is worth fighting for. We have all stood on the sidelines and watched a love story unfold before our very eyes. It has been captivating and heartfelt and very emotional because many of us have never had a man love us in the way that Rob has loved you. You will never have That kind of love and total acceptance from any other man...it is almost unheard of...that level of adoration...most women can only dream of...Go. Get. Him. Back!!!!! Good Luck!

Boogie with Stew said...

Sometimes I wondered if I was seeing the same things through my eyes that the rest of the world was seeing through theirs. Maybe there was a glitch in my brain.

Bella Swan, Twilight, Chapter 1, p.11

Kathy said...

@ Super RN gas passer....I couldn't have said it better myself.

JanBreesmom said...

Thank you so much, Rose. You said very well, what i feel but can't put into words.

diva306 said...

Dear Rose,

I've been a lurker for a few years now. Always love what you write. After reading all the hate all over the internet about this, it was so comforting to read your post. My stomach has been in a knot all day after hearing about this whole mess on the radio today. I immediately went to twitter and have been online constantly since. Kristen's apology is so raw and Rob has to be devastated. It's so obvious that he loves her so much. I only hope she really does love him, and this truly was a huge lapse in judgment. I hope they can work it out, but if not, I wish them both the best. It will take a long time for Rob to get over this, if ever. Loved the quote at the end of your post: It will always be him.

Kathy said...

Ok, it seems that I have MUCH to say tonight. I love Kristen. I do NOT love what she did to Rob. I was always upset when she was mistreated by all the haters. Now, it's going to be ten times worse and it will never end. Even if they do stay together, it just won't end. It will always be thrown in their face.

MarcelaZuniga said...

Wait a minute.. last time a check .. NOTHING was official --- Yea there are statements out there apparently from Ruper and Kristen .. BUT Kristen is not the kind of actress who just send STATEMENTS to magazines to clarify her personal life. .. However all this ends up ..No matter what happen or will happen as has happened. I will always be there by her side...Because for me it will be her and it's always been her.. Don get me wrong people cause apart from all my feelings for her .. I Love Robert and respect him as a person as an actor he is an incredible man and that's way I love this page..but my heart is with Kristen ,always. ..

Delle1 said...

I love what you said and for me I'm a mess..I've cried like it was happening to me...I've done nothing all day but go to places I can to let out how I'm feeling,we have endured alot in this fandom and I just can't imagine *why* or *what* Kristen was thinking on the day in question.....My prayers are with them both as they sort out whatever is left of their relationship,together or apart...Thanks again Kathy and also Rose.....this is my first time commenting here but I've been a fan since Twilight....It's a sad sad day for everyone .....Take Care

bcaceres30 said...

I think Kristen was wrong to cheat on Robert and its worse that it was with a married man. However, I dont think its right to crucify her or to write or say hateful and nasty things about her.

olivia said...

Thank you, dear Rose for the honest and heartfelt post. I am totally with you. Such sadness. I will keep Rob and Kristen in my thoughts and prayers. May they have privacy, peace, strength, wisdom and enough love remaining to communicate honestly with each other. The exceptional, one in a life time relationship is worth fighting for, working on, nurturing and keeping. May they decide wisely, also forgive, learn, grow positively from this experience and be whole and happy again one day. Am keeping their parents, family and friends in my thoughts and prayers also.
Hugs for you, Rose, and Roseland, and as always, hugs for Smitty, Gruff and Syd.

Delle1 said...

Thank you Chrissie,my thoughts through your words and my heart is breaking for them...I'll always love them together or apart.....
Kiri xx

*I*Believe* said...

Super? Olivia? DK? Who is here?

olivia said...

Hug for you, IB. Am not staying. Just such a sad situation. Feel so bad that everyone is hurting so much and that this private transgression is and forever will be so very public, painful, and damaging. Wish there were maturity, wisdom and consequence vision pills that we could slip into the diet of mankind.
Am calling it an evening. Hope there is some good news in the morning.

Delle1 said...

Rose,it's so good to come to a place of complete support for both of these beautiful young people...They don't know it but they saved me from alot of pain and heartbreak those few yrs ago when Twilight erupted into the world and I've been a fan ever since...I love them both and will support whatever decisions they make either apart or together,I just really really hope the hatred doesn't get the better of them this time around......
Love to Rob and Kristen xxx

*I*Believe* said...

Olivia, thanks for the message....I too hope there is good news in the morning.

faa said...

Hi Rose,
Its me again.
I still cry when I read all the posts from other fans here.
I have been following you since I can remember, way back to the time when Twilight started.
But today is my first time post to your site. And the honour to post here was tainted by the fat that I posted on this tragedy. This is not the way I imagine I would post my opinion.
But since my heart is hurting since yesterday, where else can I find total comfort, other than to be here together with all of the fans.
I feel comfort here, together with you, my dear Rose and the rest of the fans who are like me.
May the force be with them.

beacullen said...

Rose your post was soso perfect. This whole situation is just heartbreaking. I keep wondering how Rob's family reacted at the news, Rob always talks about his mom reading everything. It had to be horrible. I don't understand how Rob and Kristen could go for 3 or 4 years and rarely get photographed holding hands, then have photos like this be taken. It doesn't make sense. I'm disappointd in Kristen, and I really feel bad for Rob. He just seems to love her so so much. I hope it all works out good for them. And I hope Rupert is looking at the choices he made and reallizing what a mistake it all was. Cheating is just never worth it, and I have to say calling it a "momentary indescretation" just doesn't really cover it for me. Thanks Rose, what a crap day.

wania said...

I'm in a deep state of denial ... I will deny ... deny ... deny ... nothing makes sense ...
It is not treason in Itself ... is her life and it does not concern us ... is the public conduct of Kristen ... I'm not understand ... not makes sense in ... What reality she would expose your life, your relationships, opening it in a public statement? Exposing Rob ... public apology for Rob ... public declaration of love for Rob!?!? ... NOW??? WTF! ... not makes sense ... not makes sense ... public statements are ANTI-Kristen ... It's as if she were an alien ... I can not handle it ... the sad look of Rob come in my mind all the time ... Nothing will be as before? ... the love is broken? ...
I'll need some time ... long time ... to deal with it ... maybe I can not ... I don't know ... I don't know ... trust is a one way road...
Now, I'm just denial, sadness, denial, sadness, denial ...

DK... my heart... with you...

Peace in Roseland...

Kelly said...

Hi Rose. It's helping me to read these comments on your blog, and to know that so many of us are feeling the same way. I know it might not have been easy to post today, but your words are healing. I just can't say my thoughts anymore today, as I feel that I've cried enough for now, and my head and stomach hurt right along with my heart.
I want you all to know that I'd like us all to get together in a virtual hug, one group united in love, prayers, and support for each other and especially for Rob and Kristen during this time for them.
Love and hugs
Kelly 1918

fannygilmore said...

Thank you Rose.
I'm heartbroken for both of them.
I'm not sure where they'll end up, but so much of their relatioship seemed to be based on honesty and trust, I think it takes a long time to earn them again.
I hope they can find some peace within themselves and with each other.
I agree, it will always be him.

Snuffy said...

Longtime reader, very rare poster. I ache for them, and regret the standards that we, the fans, imposed on them.

But I know this is true... forgiveness is possible. I know it is, I forgave. We all have. If there is love, they can find their way back to each other. If not, they are better for having loved each other, and will emerge wiser and more honest.

Loui White said...

Rose,
Having been on the receiving end of this situation,(i.e. my long-time {5yrs} boyfriend 'cheated' on me), my first wave of compassion and comfort is for Rob. I know first-hand that the initial feeling is one of disbelief, than an almost unbearable feeling of failure. What did I do wrong, that drove my lover into the arms of another? It's like a hard blow to the gut. Nausea and vomit follow. I hope Kristen can answer that for Rob. I'm sure he desperately wants to be able to understand, just as I did.
My prayer is that they will want to rise above this together, and that Rob can find it in his heart to let Kristen prove how true her feelings for him are...as she herself proclaimed, "I love him, I love him. I'm so sorry." Time and actions alone can prove this statement. Will Rob be able to allow for this healing? Will we? Rob, peace be with you. You didn't do anything to 'deserve' this. Kristen, the shame you feel now will either propel you to become the person you aspire to be, or condemn you to the pride that allowed this to happen in the first place. I pray you strive to be the person we all believe you can be. My prayers will be for a strengthening of the love between Rob and Kristen, as only a true crisis can forge.

blessedby3 said...

I kept checking your site, waiting for encouraging words! I too was physically ill all day and in a rotten mood! I know it's not my life to live through them, but somehow I wish I could talk to them both and then encourage Rob to give her a second chance!! We r all human, we've all made dumb decisions, I pray they can move one! They complete each other, they love each other and from my point of view...they r soul mates!

They have true love and I hope that carries on inside him to continue forward together! I adore Kristen and Rob and hope for the best, whatever he decides!

I do feel personally that watching any of the twilight saga will never be the same if they do part ways! For me robsten made the series! Best of luck and love to all who r hurting and those involved!

I just hope that I can move past it and not have this gut wrenching feeling!

Berry said...

I love you Rose...thanks for this heartfelt post. If they are really ment to be together then they will work through it. Hope they both can find some sense of peace.

Mint said...

Oh, Rose. I can agree to almost every words except the part that I hate her. I used to like her. But I love Rob. If she hurt Rob, I can't like her.

All of these website say the same thing. He adores her. He worships the ground she walks. Ah... I feel bad for Rob. I hope he'll pull it together and not ruin his career over this. *fingers crossed*

Just Another Day said...

I don't know how to put my emotions into words. I can relate to your post however.

As for me I'm going to be taking a break from Kristen. No I don't hate her, nor do I wish her anything bad. Yet the love I had for her has drained and disappointment has filled the spot. For now I cant support her, time will tell and maybe in a few months I'll be able to love and support her again. I do wish her the best in life and her career. She has a long road ahead of her and a lesson that will be painfully learned.

As for Rob, my heart aches for him. His worldis crashing all around him as I write. I hope he recovers and is able to move on. Or if he decides to stick with her that he may be able to fully trust her again without doubt and resentment.

And yes it will always be him.

wig4usc said...

I've felt sick all day, I, too, have been on the receiving end. I've also made plenty of my own mistakes. Like most of you, I find myself so emotionally involved because they have something that's obviously special and unique. I wish I had found that person in my life at such a young age.

We don't know the extent of the indiscretion, we can only assume. And to me, that would affect possible outcomes - sex or just kissing? Neither is good, one is less good!

I do hope they both realize that they have something worth fighting for. I don't know, maybe Rob isn't all that bummed out? How can we know for certain? Maybe this is something he knew would happen before she could be his forever? (wishful thinking)

What I do know is this kind of thing, this kind of love that's obvious, doesn't come around often. Some never get to experience that kind of connection. Roll up your sleeves, girlfriend, do some serious soul searching, and figure this shit out. Do what you need to do, and hope its enough.

PipDancer said...

I hate, HATE, paparazzi. Their entire agenda is to ruin people's live.

savvy said...

I thought I should post. Rose, I have been following your blog for the past four years. It's always been place where I could come and be understood. Somewhere to call home. Here are my thoughts on this very unfortunate event:

I'm heart broken. I feel like I'm in an alternate reality. Like nothing seems real. Like I'm in a nightmare and I'm going to wake up and everything will be ok again. But I'm not. And this is real life.

I'm heart broken because I thought that they would be the ones. The people who could make it through anything. Who's love was strong enough to survive what ever came at them. They made me believe. Believe that love like that really exists in this cold, crazy and evil world. The kind of love that brings light to a world like this. But I guess I was wrong to think that real life could be like the movies.

I've been following these two for the past four years. Ever since the first Twilight movie was released and I realized that there was something special between them. That there was some spark and connection between them that nobody could really explain. They made me believe that I could find a love that some day.

As I've watched these two fall in love over the past four years, I came to realize that they were meant for each other. That they had a love that I had never seen before. And even though they never publicly announced that they were a couple, everyone knew. They knew because of the way that he looked at her. Because of the way that she looked down and smiled whenever it happened. Because of the way that they talked about each other and the hidden smiles that everyone could see. Because of the chemistry that they had on screen as Edward and Bella. It was obvious. And I couldn't have been happier to know that Edward and Bella were real. Their love was REAL. And nobody could take that away.

I have honestly learned to love Kristen Stewart. None of my family really gets it. But I would always defend her to them. I just love how real she is. How she just says what's on her mind and isn't afraid to look like a hobo. I love how awkward she is. How she gets so nervous in interviews because she doesn't want to say anything that might not get her point across. She became somewhat of a role model to me. Someone who told me to be myself and to not care what other people thought. That is... until today.

savvy said...

The fact that he is 42, married and has two young kids just gets me. I just can't believe they would both do that to the people that they love.

I totally understand that she is human. That everybody makes mistakes and that is how we learn in life. And also understand that we don't know the whole story. We don't know if it was just the one time or if it's been going on for a while. If it was just one kiss or the whole she-bang. But regardless, it is said that those pictures were taken on July17, and we just saw her holding hands with Robert on the 20. I don't know. That just doesn't seem like the Kristen that I have gotten to know and love. Someone who just continues to act like everything is fine while she knows that she is doing something that would hurt Rob more than anything.

I don't hate Kristen Stewart. Am I disappointed? Of course I am! I just don't understand what she was thinking. Why she would want to throw away her amazing life for some old, married man. I just don't understand adultery. Never have and never will. I just feel like if you are committed to someone, then you stay committed. No if, ands or buts. And if you just aren't feeling it anymore, talk to them about it! I'm sure you would be surprised to see where a good conversation can get you. The only way to have a solid and good relationship is to be honest with each other. It's the only way you'll survive.
Will I continue to support her? Good question. And I don't have an answer. I do have one thing say... I'm very glad I didn't see SWATH. Pretty much the only movie I haven't seen of hers. And I most definitely won't be seeing the other sequels if they do indeed come out. I just couldn't do it.

But I just also feel disappointed because everything seems ruined. I will never look at Kristen the same way. Not ever. She'll always just be a cheater in my mind. Breaking Dawn Part 2? Totally ruined. They are what made the Twilight movies for me. To know they really did love each other like they did on the screen. It always just made stomach do a flip and put it a huge grin on my face. But now, I'll never have that again. And it makes me very sad.

To Robert:
I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through right now. I feel for you. I really do. All I can say is that I hope you didn't find out this way. That Kristen told you before it got out to the public. If you did find out through the media, I am deeply sorry and you should know that you deserve better if that's the case. You are a wonderful man Rob. You are real, and sweet, and so compassionate. Stay strong and do what you need to do.

To Kristen:
I don't know what to say to you. I am deeply hurt by what you did. And I don't really even know why. I don't even know you. But I feel like I have gotten to know who you really are over the past couple of years. And I really have grown to love you. I have defended you time and time again. But I can't defend you this time. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this in public, but what you did is still wrong. And it can't be condoned. I'm sorry. I'll never be able to look at you the same again. And it truly makes me sad. You were somewhat of a role model to me. I wanted to be just like you. But right now, I'm glad to be me. Also, I just hope you never took Rob's love for granted. You don't find that kind of love everyday, if ever. People search their entire lives for that kind of adoration and you just threw it away. I wish I could understand, but I don't. I don't hate you Kristen. I just hate what you did.

Will Rob forgive Kristen? I don't know. Does she deserve it? I don't know that either. All I do know is that everything will work out that way that it's supposed to. Whether they get back together or not, it's not up to us. It's between them. But all I know is that this has been a very, very sad day.

Юлия Павлова said...

Rose!you really believe this??

Юлия Павлова said...

Rose! you really believe in this shit???

Jenny said...

After all the grossly hateful stuff, it is a relief to read something sensible though sad. I have been wondering why Rob has been so withdrawn and detached in recent interviews. Thought he was worried about career post Twilight but what exactly made him change his priorities? I believe that 'whatever doesn't break you makes you stronger'. Hope this is the case here.

lanorea1 said...

Kristen did something thoughtless, selfish and down right idiotic. I am angry with her for doing what she did it makes me angry.

However, I think it's time we all stop trying to make her out to be completely perfect and come to terms with the fact that she is human, she makes mistakes and ends up hurting other people.

We need to stop trying to force her to be perfect, it's unfair and it's impossible for her to live up to that.

She made a huge mistake and she is dealing with the fallout becuase of it. At the end of the day, she has no one to blame but herself for this, she knew better and yet she did it anyway.

Hopefully she and Rob can work it out, but either way, she will get through, overcome and hopefully has learned a valuable life lesson.

Lyrehc Reyes said...

I' ve been reading your blog for 2 to 3 years now and it's my first time to comment. My heart goes with the rest of you. This the best depiction of what I feel for them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on all things Robsten. Will pray for them both.

Carly said...

Dear Rose,

thank you for saying what I am feel more eloquently that I ever could

I won't choose cause I can't. I loved them both before, during and will do so after

Thank you

mary mary said...

I loved what you said.... But I am quite shocked with all that happened.... I could not believe it at first but after the pictures.. yeah... well....I could not sleep...
I just do not get it!!!! She made a huge mistake and must live and deal with the consequences now.... This year was the best for all of us, Paris, Cannes etc etc and I was always wondering what made her change her mind towards accepting their relationship in public, (FINALLY!)well after all these... I would say GUILT,she just throw a little bone to Rob...... We are all humans we make mistakes I get it... but.... she was the number1 in Hollywood with papz all over her.... how could she do it in public???? She knows papz better than anyone.... I just do not get it guys. I wish to both Rob and Kristen all my best, I hope they are ok and be strong. I will always love and support Rob, I hurt for him right now....
Thank you and sorry for my big comment...

DreamerKind said...

@Rose
Hope you are resting and have eaten.

@Olivia
Wise words. :)

@IB
Believe!

@Wildhart07
Fantastic to see you here!

@Wania
I feel as you do, about you, too.

My protective shield is in place. I'm ready for flight.

Rest well, Dear Ones.

bubblejoi said...

I'll borrow a phrase to say I feel gutted right now. I feel like I'm in mourning. I kept waitig for the news outlets to take the story back because it couldn't possibly be true. I'll admit I'm a Robert fan first and I grew to like Kristen because he loves are and as you said made him happy. I'm trying to resist any urge to hate or villify her because if he takes her back I will support him. I feel like it may be impossible for them to come back from this though. He seems to be such a principled guy and I'm not sure if he can live with her cheating and cheating with a married father but that's my speculation. I don't know him well enough to say for sure. I know that strong loves have weathered the storm of cheating and for the sake of Rob because he loves her and my own selfish reasons I'm holding onto a shred of hope that they can overcome this. Trust will be hard to come by though. But what we've seen for the past few years can't just be a big delusion. They have something real. Kristen really is immature. She has a lot of growing up to do. I'm very disgusted by her actions but I don't hate her. I think I'm choosing to make RS the villian in this tale because Rob and Kris are the ones that mean something to me. I'm so upset. When I found out I wanted to leave work and crawl in a hole. I did just that when I got home. I can only imagine Rob feels similar only a million times amplified. I feel betrayed and confused but I have hope. Be strong Rob. Good luck Kristen. You both have a painful road ahead.

benny said...

dear Rose,
as soon as I read the news I hoped to find your post, and you - as always - said the right things.
kristen of all people! a married man! she is young, but she always seemed so smart. I never imagined this scenario, even if it is Hollywood and they live another life. I just hope that Rob and Kristen can work it out, problem is that they are in front of the world.
and yes, it is so strange that this thing affects me this much.
benedetta

benny said...

to bubblejoy:

I am at work and I feel I cannot concentrate on everything, I want to go home!!!

Юлия Павлова said...

Well...it is Russian...but I bet you will understend...
Не заставляйте меня выбирать.
Это будет он.
Это всегда был он.

кхм. а вот у меня другие слова из Новолуния уже второй день крутятся в голове:
только как же ты поверила? я тысячу раз повторял, что люблю тебя, а ты позволила одному-единственному слову подрвать веру в мои чувства?

всем, кто так легко поверил, адресую...

Dottie said...

Hi Roseland friends, I finally got some sleep last night but woke up super early w/my brain going nonstop.

Like most of you, I'm not just hurting for Rob and Kristen, I'm worried too. I hope they are getting lots of care and support from the people who love them.

I hope that Kristen can get to the root of what caused her to exhibit such self-destructive behavior. Counseling might be a great help. I just want them to get the help they need so they can heal - whether they stay together or they decide to part.

Rob is such a special person. He has such a great capacity for love and I believe if any man can forgive this, he can. Trust is another issue and it will be up to Kristen to earn his trust again if that's what they want.

Sorry to ramble on. None of this makes sense. I just want them to be ok.

I'm so thankful for like-minded friends to lean on. xoxo

JMF said...

Rose: thank you. I read your post at 2am, I woke and couldn't get back to sleep, so many thoughts. I don't personally know Rob and Kristen, but for the past two years I have watched their love grow as has everyone else. I worried and laughed and chewed my nails for them like a mother does for her own. I don't understand any of this. It goes against all that Kristen has said she stands for. The pictures of them together, how they adore each other with their eyes, and the hand holding which to me is so intimate....
I worry for both of them. I don't hate Kristen, but I don't like her much either right now. I would like to sit down with her over coffee and ask what the hell she was thinking, a married man, in a parking lot, and you know the papps are always following you. And Rob, my heart aches for you. Now you have to decide if you are strong enough to once again, fight for this woman you love. Will you work together to work it out? Find support and strength with your family and friends and talk and talk and laugh and cry together with Kristen? I hope so. But follow your heart, always follow your heart.
And Rupert...shame on you for pursuing a young woman when you have a wife and children at home; those children who love you unconditionally. I hope you can work this out with your family as well.
Rose, thank you for those heartfelt words. I want Rob and Kristen to be ok, to over come this. I still am in denial, hoping this is a sick joke.

angelica1 said...

Dottie - What's actually making me feel worse today is the thought that if we actually feel this bad, I actually feel like I've suffered a bereavement to be honest, how dreadful must they be feeling. it's heartbreaking.

And now just to make the day even more wonderful, I'm off to fire someone :(

Monica said...

My heart arches for Rob and Kristen too, esp. Kristen. Have u seen those hateful comments out there? Yes, she did something really wrong. But the whole world is condemning you? Seriously, I would go insane if it was me. I believe Kristen's guilt is eating her up right now. So please, please don't throw stones any more. I wrote the following paragrahps in other sites, I post them everywhere. I hope to share my thoughts with you guys.

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People, please........I know you are confused, hurt and heartbroken even. Hear me out:

We are young. We make mistakes and we screw up. We fall, we grow. Everyone could be better if given a second chance. Kristen's wrong. She owns it and apologizes. We've all been Rob & Kristen's fans for so long. We love Rob and Kristen like families of our own. You would give your loved one a chance if they make a mistake, right? Every relationship has problems. But if you truly loves each other, you use every ounce of your patience, tolerance and understanding and try to amend things. So please give them space. Please do not leave mean comments. It breaks my hreat into thousand pieces.

Let me share with u my story. My dad cheated on my mom when I was a kid. I was about 10 at that time but I knew. Yes, I'm deeply hurt. So I always hate people who step in other people's marriage. But at the same time, I am a fan of Kristen for 2 years. I love her as an actress and person. I feel I love her as a family of my own. I'm heartbroken hearing the news. But I tend to be understanding cause as an imperfect human being like we all are, we make mistakes. We cannot think straight somethings. We make poor choices. Afterwards, we realize that we are really wrong, we are desparate for forgiveness and a 2nd chance.

Young people do do very stupid things. It isn't youth if they don't. Yes, this mistake is big. But nothing cannot be amended if there are sincere apology, heartfelt regret, determination to change, mutual love. Please think it that way, if your loved ones or families make a mistake, will you deny them any chance even if they desparately beg for your forgiveness? We love Rob & Kristen so much and for so long that we nearly treat them as our families. Yes, this incident is a big disappointment. But it does not mean the qualities we have seen on Kristen for all these years are all fake and illusion. I am just begging you all here not to abandon Kristen so quickly.

Let us think in this way. Rob & Kristen never openly addressed their relationship, although we all know they are an item. However, Kristen put her private life principle aside, lays her heart out for the world to see, judge, laugh on, only to show her apoloy, regret and her love to Rob. Her action say a lot. Yes, you can call it damage control. But I can see her sincereity and desparation behind the words. I think deny her any chance is a bit brutal.
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Monica from Asia

Kathy said...

It almost 6am and I've been up and down all night long. Can't sleep, checking the internet hoping there's been a mistake. As someone put it in an earlier post, we are in mourning. It's true. That's exactly it. If I feel this way, I can only imagine how our dear, sweet Rob feels. SO betrayed by someone he SO clearly adored. I don't want to go to work this morning because I don't feel like I can function. I'm sick to my stomach, nauseated, I have a headache and I'm tired. Honestly, what did she see in Rupert Sanders? I mean she had THE MOST beautiful man in the world as her boyfriend. I guess if she did it to Michael, then why not Rob. People around me think I'm insane for feeling so invested in the relationship of two people I've never met. Rob and Kristen were captivating. They just drew you in. Their connection, their chemistry was epic. Unlike any other. God I want all this to just go away. I hope by the end of the day, there is better news. HOPE. Something that will take this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach away. For good. I hope our beloved Rob has slept, even with the aid of a few Heineken's. I hope all of you get through your day the best that you can. Keep the faith and hope for the best. xo

valéria said...

she destroyed a family because she's dumb and selfish and can't control her hormones, she can go to hell!

Dottie said...

Angelica, I can't even imagine the pain they are in. Sorry you have to fire someone today on top of everything else.

Monica, I liked your post. As much hate as there is for Kristen, I believe she probably hates herself even more. The weight of the guilt must be crushing. And rightly so, because she did a terrible thing. I hope people will be compassionate and give her the chance to make amends and grow from this. IMO she needs to put everything else aside and focus on getting herself better and making it up to Rob, if he allows. Right now nothing is more important than self healing and restoration.

Sorry for being so chatty. This is what happens when I can't sleep! ;)

Unknown said...

Yes Rose. I definitely agree withbyour sentiments. I am greatly saddened by the situation. I just hope the best for all concerned.

Unknown said...

Yes Rose. I definitely agree withbyour sentiments. I am greatly saddened by the situation. I just hope the best for all concerned.

gwen said...

I ache for the both of them. What happened wont make me turn my back on them when all they need right now is support. I will not condemn Kristen coz in the first place i dont know her personally, so as for Rob. I dont know the whole story only what media wants us to see. I have accepted them flaws and all when i start following them.

Most of my friends experience what R & K have during the 3 years of their relationship and im happy all of my friends withstand this kind of trial. I hope for this to happen for both of them.

kisses_terry said...

do u honestly the photos were real? some fans pointed out some flaws in the pic

S.Hart said...

Rose, long time lurker, such a shame that this is what brings me out of the woods...

Thank you for the being the calm port in the storm, the voice of wisdom and compassion.

I wish I could have your strength and grace to continue to support kristen but I just can't...

I don't hate her, she hasnt betrayed ME, the only ones she needs to answer too for her choices are the loved ones in her life

But i feel bereft, she has taken something I love, my security valve, my release from the pressures of being a working mum and juggling a thousand and one balls in the air and tainted it with sadness...I think it will be a long time before I can read the books/watch the movies...I cannot imagine that I will ever want to watch breaking dawn part 2, I will no longer come home after a hard day and go to U tube for some robsten movies or Robstenation for the latest news.....I cant be excited about November and start planning with my girl friends for our twilight evening out...

How strange that someone's actions, someone who I don't know at all,can have such an impact on my life.....they say time heals all wounds...I hope so, I hope both her and robert find a way through this and I hope that someday as a fan I will be able to rediscover my love of twilight without this constant sadness overshadowing it

Twigi said...

Я пишу на русском
Потому что даже не хочу переводить
Если тебе это будет нужно ты сделаешь это сама
Но сегодня я тобой разочарована
Ты поверила в это?! Ты даже не отстояла её?! Ты поверила газетенке которая говорила что они женаты, что она беременна... Ты даже не взглянула на фото... это же монтаж...
Я думала ты отстоишь это. Потому что ИМ плевать. Они вместе. Они рядом... Ты оступила

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ali mac said...

I didn't sleep well last night and today I feel very sad, still a bit angry, thinking of Rob and Liberty, they didn't make any choices. I don't think this was the first time Rupert and Kristen met up either my feeling is it must have been happening for a while. I keep telling myself it's none of my business but I can't stop running it all round in my head. Also what I'm writing doesn't make much sense but that's how my head feels too.

Hi to all the regs.xxoo

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Rhonda said...

Rose- just want to say thanks so much for this post. I've went back and re-read it a few times now, and it sums up so much of what we're all feeling. Thanks again...<3

Angelica- sorry for the tough day :(

Tired said...

I know people are upset and hurting with all the information on this affair thing. But, judging any one is just not in our jurisdiction. That belongs to God. Those who hurt need to get on your knees and ask for the truth, bad or good, and move on. Rob and Kristen will be alright and the children are being hopefully sheltered. Now, it is time to forgive,forget, and move on.

Super RN Gas Passer said...

Hi PL

I'm at work. I have lost your email because my laptop .crashed Please email me Not about this so much but I want to catch up with you. I have been thinking about you alot and hoping I could catch you on here. Sorry it's under these circumstances though.

Annie said...

Morning.
Why is it that the woman is ALWAYS the one to be eviscerated when something like this happens?
There was a much older married man involved here too and he seems to be forgotten in all of this.........I hated his apology!
With Kristen I felt her pain AND her shame......I truly believe her apology as disappointed as I am with her actions. I find my myself hoping that Rob and her can get pass it, REALLY TALK and find out the why's of it and eventually find their way back to each other.

They love each other, of that there is no doubt!

Couples have experienced this both as celebrities and out of celebrity life and in many cases have come out stronger.

It is NOT true that once a cheater, always a cheater.

*I*Believe* said...

@PL What you said sums things up perfectly but I can't get past the thought that this is not Kristen's typical behavior. Everyone strongly states how professional she is on and off set and then this? Like you said it seemed "deliberate" but I can't see her being so unhappy that she would plan such grave action for all to see.

I feel the worst for Rob...for this to be played out in the public eye,the thing he hates the most, must be devistating. He does not deserve this.

Finally, I find Kristen giving an apology statment to People Magazine completely ODD....maybe I'm grasping but something seems off.

*I*Believe* said...

Hi Annie!

Gem said...

Rose as always your on the money, this is very sad all the way around, disappointed to say the least in Kristen, her lack of judgement caught up in the moment always has consquences, and to be quite honest very stupid and imature on her part to think that she would get away with it, when haven't the papz been around her? It's thier relationship and if it's meant for them to make it work and get thru it they will. I agree it's about healing and sorting out and hopefully Rob is hanging in there it's going to be a rough road and all we can do is send possitive thoughts his way.

Super RN Gas Passer said...

Hi Annie. IB. Rhonda. PL

I am agreeing with your comments and PL also. It is odd. Lots of things just don't " add up". I hope you have a good day.

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30 said...

Hi "I" :)

I don't want to speculate here this is just my opinion, but Kristen is desperate right now her entire life is turned upside down what was she going to do ignore the proof of what the media, Summit, fans, Rob has seen? I am sure her people had something to do with this statement that was released IMO admit what you did and hope to be forgiven. The statement was from her, I know it is hard for some to accept because we would never ever expect this behavior from her, but it is what it is, and I do agree with PL on her assessment above.

*I*Believe* said...

@PL.....again, what you say is totally true......I am still grasping........wahhhh....

Kay said...

PL - we are all going to have different opinions based on our life experiences. It's going to be up to Rob to decide which option he can live with...forgive her, flaws and all...or live without her. The thing about forgiveness is that none of us "deserve" it....that's why it's forgiveness. I still stand by my twitter quote from Monday that you asked about. Love really is worth fighting for....we often don't truly realize the preciousness of what we have until the possibility of losing it becomes real.

PL said...

IB,

I know it's hard to accept. Hang in there. You have lots of company.

30,
Good to see you around again. We all seem to migrate back here.

I've lost track, engaged, married?


I've got to go now, but I'll be checking in.

Dottie said...

http://www.twitlonger.com/show/ihnb2m

I hope it's ok if I share this. Some of you have been saying that something seems off w/Kristen. I've been feeling the same. This twitlonger expresses it very well. Maybe we would just rather think this than the alternative, I don't know. Anyway, if something is truly wrong I pray she gets all the help and support she needs.

Wherever poor Rob is I pray he is being comforted by those who love him most.

*I*Believe* said...

Hi Kay, 30 and Dottie....nice to see all the old regs....sorry it is like this :(

Annie said...

Hi IB, PL, Super, Rhonda..

If there was no forgiveness in life for transgression and horrible mistakes, lack in judgement etc.....
People like Sienna Miller and many others would NEVER have had a chance for happiness in their lives

So please DON'T suggest to me that there isn't a chance for forgiveness in anyone's relationship!
They can get back together and they can trust again!

I'm getting angry now so I'm going to leave.

Have the best day you can everyone.
Bye.

*I*Believe* said...

Hi Annie! Please check in later this evening!

Robin said...

I'm so terribly sorry for Rob and so very disappointed in Kristen. Sexual passion is so not worth the great risk taken by Kristen and Rupert. They have not only hurt their families, friends and loved ones but they may well have harmed their careers. I ache for Rob. He's such a rare man. Whatever happens next, I wish him peace and strength.

Dottie said...

Hi IB, It's so good to see you here too.

We all have different opinions based on our own life experiences. The truth is, our opinions and wishes don't matter in the grand scheme of things. What will be will be. All we can do is offer what little support we can and all the good thoughts, prayers,.... we can muster.

Thank you all for posting, especially the old regs. It's comforting to know that none of us are going through these dark days alone.

30 said...

HI PL!

Yes married. May 19th. :)

Hubby moved here to NJ from SC basically uprooted his life so it has been a rough time with military transfer, college all that fun stuff. Things are good though, I am happy. :)

PL said...

Annie,

I think I've upset you and I'm sorry. As many around here will tell you, I'm a blunt, glass half empty kind of person.

I should keep some of my opinions to myself.

PL said...

30,

Congratulations. I'm so happy for you, you deserve some happiness. Best of luck.

I've really got to go now.

30 said...

Hi Dottie and all the regs! Yes it is SO nice to see you all here, here in our Roseland. It is very scary out there on other sites, my god the nasty, right out scary comments from people I have never seen it this bad. I read on another site more pics are coming out on Monday like 50 more or something, I really hope that is not true. I am praying that is not true for all involved.

Rhonda said...

Hi Annie, IB, Dottie, Super...

There is absolutely hope of forgiveness. I'm not trying to make excuses for bad behavior, but she's not perfect and neither are we. She's stumbled, let's at least give her a chance to get back up. I'm positive there is nothing people are saying about her that she's not already feeling and saying about herself.

Rhonda said...

Hi 30- Congrats!

Hi PL

Sorry for all my typing mistakes, but I'm on vacation and only have my iPhone ;)

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30 said...

Girls I know we are all raw right now, but in the end it is not up to us if Robert forgives. There is a good possibility he might not. We as a fandom have to accept his decision what it is. Kristen's career is hurt and many people have been affected since this has been dragged threw the media that makes it worse. Let us support Rob, he needs it the most at this time. Think about how he feels.

Dottie said...

RHONDA, I didnt see you here. Did you get my email yesterday? I tried to respond to your DMs but twitter was being a butt. I forgot to tell you that I had Emailed last night. I was 1/2 asleep. Enjoy your vacation.

Dottie said...

CONGRATS 30! All the best to you and your hubby.

*I*Believe* said...

Freddie!!!! Please check in!

angelica1 said...

Hi 30 - Glad things are going well for you!

Hi IB :)

sthin said...

thank you so much Rose for warm, honest messages of yours. I am too, one of the TwiHard fans, a friend and almost like a sister supporting around Kristen and Rob for almost 4 years, when the 1st Twilight heat up around the globe. I remembered way back in 2008, i told myself that these two have great chemistry onscreen. And even, guessed and dreamed that they should be together offscreen. And it did. :) I've witnessed their careers, love, relationships, individually and in couple. I loved them so much that it caused me to be a habit everyday checking the latest status and updates of Robert and Kristen, out and about showbiz life. And with all these ridiculous cheating scandals, bitching silly news, checked, viewed still thinking its NOT TRUE. I cried, get nervous as new stories and pics were flashing thru my twitter and media sites. If this were all true, I AM SO BROKENHEARTED. I cried, devesdated, so sad and hurting. And it still hurting. I do know anymore the whole truth about the stories, Most people agreed on what Kristen did to Rob. and media sites said that she sincerely apologize for the mistakes she had made. And on that, I am broken with sadness and tears in my eyes.
It hurts so much that Robert and Kristen are having bad situations, Kristen blaming for everything, calling her stupid words. And Robert being taking care of, felt sorry for him as if he was in shocked and devasdated in the situation. I loved them so much and i felt sorry for both of them facing this biggest challenges in their lives. I don't blame Kristen for what she did. I feel sorry and so sad for her, want to talk to her why she did this and if its all true. what is the reason, she do it. We do not know the real story between Rob and Kristen romance,as they were not personally dishing out their status in relationship. I know actions speaks louder than words, we even become the witnesses of their love affairs. Is Rob did something wrong that made Kristen did this? Just questioning tiny deets to make us all realize what really happened. I don't blame Robert. I loved him so much, i felt sad for him. Both of them are facing the toughest problems and this made their careers affected as well. I know Rob and Kristen is talking this out, and i am hoping that they will work this out, forgive each other, settle whats the best for both them. Honestly, i do not want them to broke up. I loved being them together loving. I felt sorry for the Stewarts and Pattinsons family, i do hope they will not leave Kristen and Rob despite of this hurtfelt problems.
I will respect whatever decisions Robert and Kristen will made. Again i am not letting go on ROBSTEN. I will still continue to support them. They are still the two of the greatest actors in our generation today. THE TRUTH SHALL PREVAIL and TIME HEAL WOUNDS, SECOND CHANCES IS NOT BAD! I LOVE THEM AND STILL BELIEVE IN ROBSTEN!

Monica said...

@PL,

Not sure if you have read my post above. Since 10, I grow up always knowing the fact that my dad cheated on my mom. Trust me, my dad never apologizes but my mom decided to keep him for some reasons (out of love maybe, I dun know). Compared with my dad, I think Kristen definitely should be given a 2nd chance. Her statment is so raw, it's guilt, regret, and love to Rob. Yes, you can be suspious, question if it is honest. It's your freedom to think whatever you think. But that's a but cruel IMO.

I used to think cheating is the most awful behavior in the world. The fact that my dad cheated crushed my little heart as a kid. I used to wonder how one is capable for cheating if they have love for his/her another half. No one feels it deeply more than me cause I grow up with the hurt in the bottom of my heart I promise you. But now, I'm older, in my late 20's, I realize things are not always black and white. And I understand human beings can make some really stupid mistakes. And they do that not because their love is not deep enough, but due to simple misadjustment/ not thinking straight/ a weak moment, etc. It is as simple as that. It takes me long to realize this fact, trust me. So now, in my eyes, there's noting can never be forgiven. Even a murderer, with sincere regret, heartfelt apology and accepting his punishment, he can gain forgiveness. Hope you see my point here.

As for Kristen's wrong doing, it's Rob to judge. Haters outside are ready to stone Kristen to death. The whole world is crushing out there. She has nowhere to hide already. She doesn't need one more stone from you.

Sorry if it comes off a bit harsh.

Monica from Asia

Jane said...

Why it hurts so much is because we loved them so much and believed in their love. Right, don't make me choose, for it will be him.

Unknown said...

My feelings are the same as yours. I love them both, together or apart. I can't imagine the heartbreak Rob is feeling. I just hope, like you, they both are ok. Thanks for the post, I don't comment often, but I read every post and enjoy the flow of your writing.

hm said...

Thank you so much for stating exactly how I feel so very eloquently. Thank you.

melissa said...

This is saying just what I wanted to say but can't right now. I still can't understand how this could happen. Praying for strength and a respite from the press for Rob and Kristen.

lanorea1 said...

I woke up this morning determined I was moving on from this but I JUST couldn't avoid checking in to see what was happening here, and after reading comments I really want to say something.

PL I have been reading this blog for years, and even though this is the first time I have commented publicly, but I have been one of the lucky few who when I reached out to you, you responded with nothing but true friendship.

I have always enjoyed your take on things, I think anyone who has read anything you've written realizes that you ALWAYS say what you feel about a subject, sometimes it's not easy for other people to read, and you realize this and do not fault others for not agreeing with you.

While you have very strong feelings about certain issues, that doesn't mean you're close minded. You enjoy a friendly discussion with someone who has a different point of view than you, and at the end of the day, when the discussion is over, the person who you have been talking with knows that you're still their friend.

I have watched you over the years reach out to EVERYONE on the blog with nothing but friendship and honesty. I have seen you get angry and defend a friend who was DEAD WRONG but she was your friend and you defended her like a Mama bear defending her cub...even though you're way too young to be her Mama lol.

You've been there when people have had personal issues and needed a true friend, you've reached out and been there for them.

You HAVE been a true friend to everyone. You have defended Kristen, Rob and even Tom when you felt they were right and like the honest person you are, you have taken them to task when you feel they were wrong.

I completely support your position on this issue. I agree with you...but even on the slight chance I didn't agree with your point of view I would stand by your side as a friend, because that is what you have done for me. I appreciate your friendship and I thank you for your loyalty. YOU are a rare and precious friend and I will ALWAYS have your back!

Leni said...

Perfect as always, Rose!

I would have never imagined that I could be so terribly sad about that :(

I agree with those of you who have said that this is completely out of character for Kristen.. I am NOT saying that what she did was understandable or right - but I can't help but feel that there is something going on with her that we can't see yet.
I am still supporting her. She made a mistake but who am I to judge since I'm far from perfect myself. That is why I can't understand the absolute hatred directed towards her. EVERYONE has already made mistakes and hurt people they love - that's called being human.

As for Rob, I am so worried about him and just hope that he gets some consolation.

I have to fully agree with Annie - it makes me sick that Kristen is getting blamed for everything while that sleazy director seemingly gets away with what he did. His apology was in no way good enough.

Kristen's apology seemed to be genuine, full of regret and shame and you could feel how desperate she is :(
But yeah, something was a bit off with that apology too.. something with that whole mess just doesn't add up IDK IDK

I sincerely hope and pray that Rob and Kristen can work this out, stay together and that they/he can trust again!

Sorry for the long comment, just needed to get it out there.. I would have never imagined that this could make me feel so sad ;(

Wildhart007 said...

Just wanted to say hi to everyone. I think everyone's heart is hurting. My thoughts and prayers are for healing and hope.

Lynne Knowles said...

Rose,
I posted yesterday and wanted to follow up.
I have been so very upset by this...as if they are my family.
I have been following your blog for almost 3 years now.
You don't know me, but we have shared many laughs, smiles, aww moments and tons of TWIRLS !!
This love story, the movie...real life mirrors...was a special bond I shared with my daughter.
It was her that "nagged " me into watching some "vampire" movie that "You are gonna love mom", "you are gonna LOVE this guy"
I rented Twilight and New Moon and I was HOOKED after the first few minutes in.
Could not wait for the next day so I could run out and see Eclipse and get the books and read Breaking Dawn because I could not stand to WAIT!!
My daughter and I spent many nights on facebook and skype over the next year or so joking and laughing about my new addiction that she had introduced me to.
In June of 2011, my beautiful daughter died suddenly.
My bond with her lived on through your blog and the movies and all the giggles and smiles we shared.
She passed before she could celebrate her first wedding anniversary.
Her widower, my son-in-law now carries on for her. To honor her he watched all the movies and read all the books..something the tough guy side of him did not allow when she was alive.
He has become the "fan" that I share my love of this story and my interest in Rob and Kristen...a love story that I projected my daughter on.
I am in pain for them...for him...as I know he is devastated.
For her as the one inflicting the pain and living with that. For the others as well.
I can only hope that they find strength and support from their parents who have weathered many a storm I can only imagine.
Thanks for letting me be a part of your blog and for sharing a little bit of you with each post.
Now you know a little bit about me too.
Peace and Happiness

wig4usc said...

Hello, Roseland:

I woke up this AM feeling exhausted by all this. I've read some of the comments from today and just to share something from my experiences that might strike a chord with some of you. This isn't something I share with everyone, but felt compelled to. Sorry about how long this will be!

I was cheated on in my late 20's by the man I was supposed to marry. We dated for 9 years, he was the one for me. I couldn't forgive, and frankly, he didn't ask for that. I was very hurt, angry, and we never called or saw each other, it was like a death. Fast forward 13 more years, I'm married with a child, he's also married with two little ones. I find out he has brain cancer and has days to live. For some crazy reason I'll never really understand, I went to see him. He was in hospice at his parents house. What I found out was this man, who I had vilified for years, who was on his death bed, wanted to tell me how sorry he was. He had lived with regret for what he had done, and was truly sorry. He couldn't speak very well, so we didn't talk long, but when he started saying "I'm sorry" over and over, I broke down crying and told him there was nothing to be sorry for, it all worked out how it was supposed to, to be at peace. He thanked me and said "I love you". It was a surreal and beautiful moment, and a gift, a true gift for me to give him some peace before he passed. And to also know how he felt. He died 3 days later.

His mom, sister, aunts, even his wife, filled in some blanks about those years that had passed. He had regretted what he had done. His wife heard the whole thing the night they met, years later. He was unhappy with himself and his life, I was collateral damage. I am so thankful to be given the opportunity to forgive, and for taking it. This "cheater", while hurtful to me, lived with more hurt than I did.

Yes, something's going on with Kristen, no doubt. And I read on Gossip Cop today that the cheating was not sexual. I think that makes this a different prospect. Can adults who truly love each other forgive kissing? I would hope so. Love is worth that.

I share this simply because some are so harsh about what's going on. I hope that people will allow K, R, and both of them to move past it.

Super RN Gas Passer said...

LYNNE KNOWLES

Thanks for posting and please accept our heartfelt condolences on the loss of your daughter. I'm sorry these circumstances led you to post with us but welcome and please come back

To ALL the REGs

I just want to ditto what DOTTIE said earlier. It has been very comforting to me to see you all. I hope that you will all post more often.

Super RN Gas Passer said...

WIG for USC

Lovely story. Thank you so much for sharing.

Monica said...

@wig4usc,

I have tears after reading your story. I believe Kristen is deeply sorry right now, jus tlike your ex. I hope Rob and Kristen could talk their feelings out. I dun want them to miss the opportunity to mend things and regret for their whole lives afterwards.

Monica from Asia

Robin said...

PL, your comments made perfect sense to me after my initial grief.

Kristen is an extremely intelligent girl and has said herself that she has become intuitive about the presence of the hated paps. That said, she had to have known the very likely outcome of the way she conducted her dalliance.

Perhaps the "Robsten" relationship became such a juggernaut that she chose an uncharacteristically cowardly way of ending it.

I have to agree with PL that I don't see salvation for this relationship; Kristen would be forever apologizing, and Rob would be forever suspicious.

lady-luck-92 said...

Wow. I think that pretty much sums up what I'm feeling after reading these comments. I understand that people are hurting, and that they're disappointed, but has anyone really stepped back to ask themselves why they're so heartsick over this? Why they're physically responding to someone else's lives? Have you taken a good look at how impossibly high you had placed these people on their shrine? It's all you talked about for months, years even; this relationship. You cradled it like a newborn child, you held it up in adoration and basked in what you felt was its radiance, and you let your world become centered around it. Nobody is that perfect. No relationship is that perfect and shouldn't be subjected to the pressure of being such.

This was more than a momentary indiscretion. It was a deliberate choice for whatever reason. Most people have lines that they just won't cross, or tolerate being crossed. Having any kind of dalliance with someone who is married is a definite hard line for most people. And I saw where someone talked about their dad having an affair and their mom stayed with them, and yes, that's a personal choice, and I'm sure that Rob and Kristen will have to work out whatever is best for BOTH of them. But remember this, when someone cheats, they've made a conscious choice. They chose to be selfish. They chose to be destructive, not only to their own lives, but other people's as well. They chose dishonesty and betrayal. That part of the equation never changes. There is no excuse for making those choices.

Did she betray Robert? Yes. Did she betray her fans? In a way, yes. As unfair as it is, fame comes with certain expectations. So many people have defended her and have praised her honesty and integrity and they put their blind trust in her that she would hold herself up to those standards. She didn't. And once a trust is broken, it's difficult to get back. Do some people try? Sure. But breaking someone's trust is like dropping one of those glass ornaments. You might be able to put it back together again, but there are always going to be weak points and fractures.

She knew the risks, she knew that her actions would have consequences and yet she chose to take them anyway. She's not perfect. She never claimed to be.
I'm not saying she deserves to be drawn and quartered, but she's going to have to deal with whatever consequences comes from this, and quite frankly, she needs to deal with them and not have them glossed over and swept under the rug and excused because people are so willing to overlook her mistake just so they won't have to deal with this person they've idolized falling from grace.

Youth is no longer her ally. She's an adult who is obviously capable of making very adult decision. People really need to step back and figure out their own lives and why they've let themselves get so invested in this before they try to figure out how to solve her life.

Lavendersings said...

Thank you for your post Rose, words that need to be said and listened to ...I am going to say this because I think many of us feel this way...I personally would like to slap the daylights out of Kristen and tell her what the heck was this all about? A married man, a co-worker, a father and his wife played your mother in SWATH~~~That is my vent and now I do think and honor her apology and feel it was sincere. I am heartsick to death for Rob this wonderful man who has worn his love on his sleeve for you for years. I hope in his heart he can find forgiveness and you can both get on with your love story and if not I know sadly that you will never find another man to love you the way he has loved you. Do I hate Kristen no I don't I've already slapped her and I will forgive her for this immature and stupid thing she has done...as for the 41 year old director he is married and should of never done this to begin with. My wish is he is forgiven by his wife and family we all make mistakes and we all need forgiveness sometimes in our lives...I do hope that Kristen will step out of the role of SWATH the damage is done no need to continue with this. I hope and pray that Rob and Kristen can work this out forgiveness is the most important thing we can do especially for our loved ones.

Rachel K. said...

Just saw the new pics and all I can say is that she deserves all the bad things that are coming her way.

The intimacy shown in those pics show me that this was not the first time they were doing this, no fucking way!
She was wearing Rob's tokens and hat while doing this, how fucking disrespectful is that?? They were both looking straight at the camera, they knew they were being seen. She obviously didn't mind to get caught, maybe she wanted to??? If she wanted so badly to self-destruct, couldn't she do it without publlicly humiliate someone who adored her so much? He worshiped her! Something is so wrong with this girl, this makes no sense. Is she bipolar or something??? Is she on drugs?? Or is she plain and simple a really bad person?

Honestly? It's not the kisses or the hugs that disgusts me so much... it's the fucking smile on her face!
Fuck! Who are you Kristen Stewart???

Her statement of apology is pathetic and insulting. How can she say that Rob is the person she respects and loves the most after doing something like this? If she really loved him she would never, NEVER even think about doing something like this. The only reason she apologised was because she was caught. Only to save her face, which is impossible at this point. Her image is forever ruined.

I don't understand why people are still wishing that Rob forgives her and stays with her... How can he? How can he possibble trust this person again? I hope he can get over this mess and find love again with someone worthy.

sue said...

One day further and still so so sad. I often asked myself how I would feel if they broke up but couldn't. I know now, it's still making me sick and tears jump in my eyes every time I think about them which is constantly. God why did I look at the pics, they are burnt into my brain, even if they're only half true, it looks very cozy and not innocent. I can't even imagine how Rob and the wife must be feeling. At first I thought it was all BS untill the statements. I'm glad you said your words R. I read some horrible stuff, comments about stoning her etc, people are sick. It takes two to tango but this guy is married with two kids, did he get a kick out of a young beautiful woman being impressed by him, dickhead. I don't have much hope for them for Rob being able to get over this, it is a public kick in the balls, if they could have dealt with it privately, maybe, but now they are even under more scutiny. I don't want to judge K, not want to be holier than holy as affairs happen but for someone who always professed honesty, privacy and discretion, she really fucked up and it must feel like a stab in the heart for Rob. What was she thinking, all I can say she wasnt'. This will hurt Rob even more realizing, she must have lusted for this guy so much she didn't care or forgot about the consequences. I can't get my head around it, it just doesn't make any sense. I try to relate to it, why do it? Knowing being followed 24/7? She was talking about her life being boring, not exactly someting you wanna hear being the partner. The reality is, is that prob she wasn't entirely happy, something missing in their rel and maybe for the best they go their seperate ways. She is very young, in the limelight, on every cover you can find, perhaps her priorities have changed. Perhaps Rob wanting to make the next step, all this pressure, talking weddings, babies, she got cold feet? Lot of shit is coming out, gossipmachine in overdrive. What is true and what isn't? (which by the way isn't any of our business) like they didn't have sex, it was a little fling, Rob moving out. It's so fucking sad, will you ever be able to trust her again specially in their profession? We made a fairytale of R&K's love and it came crushing down. It's all very sad, specially for Rob and the wife. I'm sorry for babbling incoherently, my brain is fucked.

ali mac said...

Sue, your not the only one whose head is a mess. I'm reading the comments and wondering how people can put their thoughts into coherent paragraphs, every time I try I end up rambling and contradicting myself.

I think when this all is over I'm going to take a look at myself. I will still follow Rob, but I will try not to get so into his relationship again (I'll try anyway, don't know if I'll be able to.)

It really is a comfort to come here and see so many feeling the same way as me, especially all the regs.

wigs4usc Thanks for sharing your story.

Lynne Knowles Sending you a cyber hug and condolences on your daughters untimely passing (())

PL said...
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ali mac said...

PL where did you see new photos??

Lynne Knowles said...

SUPER RN & ALI MAC
Thank you for your kind words.
I have read this blog for years, posted a few times.
I just wanted to share how special the Twilight Saga and all that it is was to me and my daughter.
<3<3<3

PL said...

Ali,

Someone linked them on twitter. Let me make my email public and you can email me for the site. I don't want to draw more attention than necessary to them.

Boogie with Stew said...

Time passes. Even when it seems impossible. Even when each tick of the second hand aches like the pulse of blood behind a bruise. It passes unevenly, in strange lurches and dragging lulls, but pass it does. Even for me.”
― Stephenie Meyer, New Moon

JMF said...

My hope is that because their relationship seems to be so strong, that they have the privacy they need to calm down, and then come together to talk, yell, throw things, (not at each other) and seek counseling if need be. IF they have the relationship I think they do, I don't think Rob will walk away without first putting some effort into it. I don't know them personally, I take all of this from the interviews, and pictures of the looks, touches, and smiles. To me Rob isn't a man to throw away this relationship without giving it his all, even though no one would blame him if he did. My heart goes out to his family as well as Kristen's. And to Kristen, I don't know why, or how, but you need to figure out what you want and who you want and then work for it. I support both of them but right now my heart aches for Rob.

ali mac said...

PL I sent you an E-Mail, let me know if you don't receive it.

Lynne Knowles said...

JMF..DITTO

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