What am I supposed to say?
There is so much anger out there right now.
So much hatred.
I'm disappointed too.
Obviously I care about Rob and Kristen.
I would never in a million years imagine something like this
happening between two people that were so in love.
And whether you believe it or not...
They still love each other.
Whether they go forward together or not
isn't up to you... or me.
Rob and Kristen need to figure this out.
I only wish they could do so with some measure of privacy.
All the conspiracy theories and rationalizations
aren't going to change what happened.
All the continuous hatred and bitterness
doesn't serve any purpose other than to
prolong the unhappiness and sadness.
We all are hurting in some way...
And I understand the feeling of protection over Rob.
The thought of him in so much pain... kills me.
But the truth of the matter is
What Kristen did has nothing to do with us.
We can question why
We can be sad
We can be disappointed and angry.
But where do you stop and let it go?
When do you realize that hating her isn't going to change anything?
Because in truth...
All this turbulent emotion is more about us
intruding on their relationship.
Pushing ourselves in... where we never belonged in the first place.
This isn't ours to deal with.
This isn't really even our pain to feel.
I know we all do... I do, too...
But we need to back off now...
We need to let them heal and figure this out
We finally need to leave them alone...
and quit asking for things we have no right to ask for.
We don't have a right to know the intimate details.
We never did.
My father... who is one of the most intelligent and witty men I know...
but completely clueless when it come to
Actually said to me yesterday
"So I was reading the paper and saw that there
is big trouble in vampire land"
He said VAMPIRE LAND.
I just looked at him... shocked.
I finally replied...
"Yeah, Dad... Vampire land is kinda sad right now"
He looked at me and said
"I feel sorry for those 2 kids. I can't imagine having to
deal with that heartbreak in the public eye."
My father has it.
And he knows nothing about Rob and Kristen
beyond what he has read in the paper.
I know some of you are so angry at Kristen
and want to call her names and hate on her.
But try to look at her...
as she is.
Strip away the fame and fortune...
Take away who her boyfriend is.
Look at her.
She is just a girl.
Who made a terrible mistake.
A horrible choice.
Yes... she hurt some people
And she has to live with that.
She has to make amends.
But she is hurting too.
If you saw her on the street...
Desperate and crying... hurt
Wouldn't you stop and try to help her?
Wouldn't you be scared and worried for her?
Or would you just scoff and say she deserves her pain?
Would you spit on her as you walked away?
I would help her.
I want her to be OK.
I want her to be OK.
I couldn't just turn my back and walk away.
And that's where I am right now.
This post is brought to you by compassion.
I hope some of you find some.
If you are without sin... cast that stone.
Until next time
(and there will be a next time.)
Bye for now
I still adore Tom Sturridge.
A bright shiny star
in this dark dark night...